What to Expect

Working with me

What to expect
when we work together

Reaching out can feel simple on paper and weird in real life. This page walks you through what actually happens, so you're not guessing.

Free 15-min consultation First session
Free · 15 minutes · Google Meet
Step one

The free consultation

This isn't a mini session. It's a quick call to see if working together makes sense. You can bring notes, keep it short, or start with "I don't know where to begin."

We use the call to get a basic sense of what's been hard, cover practicalities (fees, availability, format), and answer any questions you have. At the end, I'll tell you honestly whether I think I'm the right fit — and if not, I'll say so.

50 minutes · online
Step two

Your first full session

We start where you are — then talk through how we might approach the work together. There's no right answer, and no pressure to decide straight away.

Co-regulation — what it looks like in a session

My approach is grounded in Polyvagal Theory and the clinical work of Deb Dana. In practice, that means I'm tracking what's happening in my own body as we talk — not just listening to your words.

If something feels rushed or emotionally loaded, I might slow things down, pause, or ask you to say something again. Your nervous system and mine are in contact. When I stay steady, it gives yours something safer to settle alongside — that's co-regulation, and it's how relational safety builds over time.

Option A

Focused somatic work

Shorter, more intense. We target something specific — a belief, a memory, a pattern.

Tends to suit people who have more capacity for intensity, or where the issue is relatively contained — a specific event, relationship, or recurring response.

Around 6 sessions, then we pause and review together.
Option B

Open-ended exploration

Slower, broader. About understanding patterns rather than resolving one thing.

Better suited to longer-standing or layered things — recurring patterns, complex trauma, identity, or a sense that something's off but you can't name it yet. Also a good fit if you've tried other approaches, if intensity feels like too much right now, or if understanding yourself is the goal.

Check-in at ~10 weeks — continue, adjust, or close.
There's no right or wrong choice. Some people know straight away what they prefer — others figure it out as we go.

Sometimes it clicks quickly. Sometimes it takes a couple of sessions to know. Either way, we can be straightforward about it.

Setting expectations

What will and won't happen

✓ What will happen
I'll be clear about what I'm noticing, without dressing it up
We'll slow things down when speed makes it messy
Silence, tangents, and "I don't know" are normal here
We use both of our nervous systems to set the pace
You can ask for more structure, or less structure
If it's not a fit, we'll say it plainly
✗ What won't happen
I won't push you to go faster than you can handle
I won't hide behind vague "therapist language"
I won't treat eye contact or sitting still as "doing it right"
I won't make you justify your neurodivergent traits
I won't keep going if you want to pause or stop
I won't keep you "because you're being polite"

Want to start
with a short call?

If you're curious, book the free 15-minute consultation. We'll keep it simple and see what makes sense.

Book your free 15-minute consultation